Friend. Mental awareness

In darkness she finds a friend
For the light of day shines too bright
Sunrise exposing the scars
Inflaming the wounds
Laying her bare for all to see
Help me father, cradle me once again mother
I cannot bare this pain
This loneliness and regret!
But they’ve grown too tired of trying
Wearied by all her relapses
Each one worse than the last
A problem child they’ve abandoned to fate
‘Show us you can really change,’ they now chorus with each new cry for help!
In catholic school she was taught
‘If you take your own life, eternal damnation awaits’
But the darkness is not so bad, she thinks
All in the light shun and avoid me
And I do not blame them; I’d avoid me too!
Maybe this world is not where I belong
Maybe in the darkness, my true friends await.
She does not see how dark the friend in darkness really is
How sinister and spiteful
For deception thrives away from the light
And those sweetened calls
Are rotten to the core!
But they are all she has
There is no one else
The calls whisper each night;
“Just a slit
Just a few extra pills
A leap or a noose will make them hurt
Make them grieve
Make them regret!
If you do this you’ll find us, they say
For in the darkness, your true happiness awaits”
LIES!
All of it; LIES!

The calls of despair are often answered by evil.
For the light must be wielded.
And if you do not reach out,
Then who will?

Family is often a home.
But they rarely understand.
For there is much they do not see,
And much they do not know.
In times of depression and distress,
It is us; friends, who have the power-
To wield the light that keeps darkness at bay.

Let us check on our friends.
Let us reach out to those we hold; or have ever held dear!

A drink
A laugh
A trip down memory lane
A call
A text
A thought made a gesture
Friendship;
It’s the little things that wield the softest light
A path to our best light.

ยฉ judeitakali


I hope this reminds you to reach out to someone.

I’ve lost someone to suicide before, so I reach out as often as I can since then; actually have a schedule for outreach. A new friend of mine lost one of her friends to suicide recently and I’d already written a draft on mental health; but I shelved it for later and wrote this last night.
For some reason it felt important that I do it now.

Looking forward to your thoughts.

Stay safe everyone, stay loving.

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Jude Itakali

88 Comments Add yours

  1. kittysverses says:

    Brilliant, Jude. Yes, understanding in times of grief is all that is needed. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much Kitty. We need to always check on our friends, especially those we know can have mental issues.

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  2. earthskyair says:

    Powerful, important words here.๐ŸŒท

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much for appreciating.

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  3. vaniheart says:

    This is so deep and powerful jude ….โคโคโค

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    1. judeitakali says:

      I’m glad to hear that Vani.โ™ฅ๏ธ

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  4. Dora says:

    Jude,
    A beautiful call to act in love, to regularly reach out to our friends. This should be a habit that we teach our children too. Recently read of a high school where four teenagers committed suicide. Teachers and parents canโ€™t see what peers can.
    Love this beautiful poem.โค๏ธ
    pax,
    dora

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    1. judeitakali says:

      That’s devastating. and yes I agree, we should. I’d like to read about the highschool if you have a link.๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

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      1. Dora says:

        Iโ€™ll try to find the link.

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  5. A patient ear can be all they need at times. One who won’t judge them. Light is the only thing that can dispel the darkness. It’s a great thing that you’re reaching out to friends. That’s the need of the hour, especially with the restrictions and isolation. I’ve lost a classmate to suicide too. We need to reach out more so that no one feels alone or feel that a way out is better than living.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      I’m so glad you understand Shweta. Thank you ๐Ÿ˜Œโฃ๏ธ

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  6. LaDonna Remy says:

    A poignant and beautifully written piece. I am sorry for your loss and the loss of your friend. Loss of any kind is difficult, and loss in this unexpected way is deeply painful to navigate. Your message is an important and needed one.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much for the acknowledgement and support in this LaDonna โ™ฅ๏ธ

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      1. LaDonna Remy says:

        โ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธ

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  7. Aparna says:

    Awesome work ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ
    It is sad to know when people commit suicide
    We should make people around believe that we are there for them in case of problems ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

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    1. judeitakali says:

      I fully agree. Thank you Aparna.โ™ฅ๏ธ

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  8. balroop2013 says:

    A powerful reminder that help is just an inch away. Beautifully articulated.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much Roopโ™ฅ๏ธ
      If we can, we should be that help that reaches round that corner.

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  9. I’ve been on the edge, but I stepped back instead of forward. I couldn’t convince myself the world would be better off without me. It has helped me recognize that pain in others and sometimes I will call and I will be blunt and say, ” I’m worried that you might hurt yourself. Talk to me now or I’m heading over, even if it means I have to drive for nine hours and meet you at 3am.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      So happy to hear you stepped back. Your blog has so much light and inspiration, and so is this message.โ™ฅ๏ธ

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  10. This is a very tragic poem, Jude. Suicide is a truly terrible thing and it is awful that young people don’t get the help and support they need before they take such a drastic step.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      I agree with this Robbie. And often what they need is to not feel alone, that’s a bit of the reason why I always balance my posts. The light is not so bright and the dark is empathetic.โ™ฅ๏ธ

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  11. Ingrid says:

    I am glad you reach out to those who may be in need of help. I lost my mother to suicide and when I think back, I doubt she felt she had a โ€˜safeโ€™ person to turn to. Help is out there but sometimes the sufferer does not know where to look!

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    1. judeitakali says:

      I couldn’t agree more Ingrid. it’s so tragic what she and you went through. You so get this.โ™ฅ๏ธ

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  12. mariamichaela says:

    This one hits home. I knew someone who we lost to suicide. He was my mom’s friend and I knew him well enough. Like Robin Williams, he was a witty and funny man. He loved making people laugh. But we never saw it coming or maybe we didn’t pick up on it.

    I also reach out to friends and families and often post positive or uplifting messages in my social media in the hopes it can help.

    This is a wonderful poem, Jude. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      It’s so hard to tell sometimes. People hide it too well. I think sometimes with our friends, if we share some of our own struggles, we can see signs from their feedback and maybe it can help us begin reaching out more.
      But sharing them in a non-judgemental way is very important.
      I’m glad you share positivity, I read your blog, it’s soft and very tranquil when you share it.โ™ฅ๏ธ

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      1. mariamichaela says:

        Thank you, Jude. You are right, it’s important to talk about this in a non judgemental way. It’s also good to make many more people aware of depression and I appreciate you so much for sharing this. ๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒท

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      2. judeitakali says:

        Thank you so much Michaelaโฃ๏ธ

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  13. memadtwo says:

    It’s a difficult role to play, being that friend. I would imagine you play it well though. (K)

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    1. judeitakali says:

      I realized a couple of years ago when I was going through a lot, that if I can find my own peace, then it will always want to be spread and shared. And the happiness in helping is precious.

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  14. -Eugenia says:

    It’s the little things that yield the softest light” – this speaks volumes, Jude! Brilliant writing, my friend.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much Eugi. I’m happy you get this part, it’s so important because nobody ever knows they need the little things and therein lies their power.

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      1. -Eugenia says:

        You’re welcome!

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  15. Powerful ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much for the appreciation.

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  16. Ace! Keep it up!!!

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thanks alot Ben. Cheers๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

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  17. Profound and powerful poem and it is really sad when people commit suicide. You are doing an awesome job Jude. So nice to be helping and being kind to such Souls who are searching for themselves. Lovely post.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much Kamal. I’m glad you appreciate this ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

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      1. Always welcome dear Jude ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

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  18. All lies indeed. Mental health awareness is really important and how you penned it here is a representation of how terrible it can be.
    You reminded to actually check with myself if Iโ€™m still doing alright.
    Appreciate the reminder!โฃ๏ธ

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much for appreciating. I’m glad this is a reminder for you. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ’œ

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  19. michnavs says:

    This is very sad, tragic but is a reality…yes, we need to check out on our friends

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thanks alot for the acknowledgement Michelle.

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  20. Sadje says:

    Very important message Jude. Most people donโ€™t understand mental illness and donโ€™t know how to cope with it.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much Sadje for appreciating.

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      1. Sadje says:

        Youโ€™re welcome โ˜บ๏ธ

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  21. It is all too easy to crawl into the darkness to find comfort…

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Alas, the way out always needs work from the individual but sometimes it just needs a soft everpresent light.

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      1. Always supposing you want a way outโ€ฆ

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      2. judeitakali says:

        Yeah there’s that but it is definitely one of those things one may not want but definitely needs.

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      3. So true, Jude…

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  22. henhouselady says:

    Thank you for reminding us to reach out to people who are suffering.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you for appreciating. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

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  23. Beautifully written, Jude, but how sad. I think a lot of us have been affected by suicide. And I love it that your reach out to those you care about. A powerful message.

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much Diana.

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  24. Elizabeth says:

    Strong poem, I could feel the despair in it! Good job!

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much Elizabeth.

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  25. Era says:

    So beautifully penned!

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much Era. It’s been a while. Lemme go see what you’ve been up to.

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      1. Era says:

        Always a pleasure โ˜บ
        Yup, actually busy with my studies so get less time here on WordPress.

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      2. judeitakali says:

        Will look forward to your return when you get a break.

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      3. Era says:

        Thank you, Jude!!
        You will surely find me here in the blogosphere on and off.

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  26. Anish D. says:

    This post is so brilliant! Mental awareness is so underrated nowadays. More people like you are needed to bring it into the limelight! Thanks for the great read. #mywordskraft

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much for the appreciation.๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

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  27. Nice โค๏ธ

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

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  28. Olivia Ava says:

    Outstanding..

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    1. judeitakali says:

      Thank you so much Ava. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

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